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I decided to do this as a "last hurrah!" of sorts. In about eight months I'll be transferring from a community college to a four year university. When I transfer, I'll also be applying for jobs, after nearly two years of being a SAHM. So, I wanted to dye my hair something fun one last time before the option is taken away from me for pretty much the rest of my life.
Most people think it's a fun idea, but my father has a different opinion. When I talked to him recently to make plans for him to see his granddaughter over Christmas, he said that he thinks being a mother and having pink hair are two very incompatable things. That people will look down on me and think that I am a bad mother based on my hair color.
Is this true? If you saw a woman in her early twenties (or any age, really) with pink hair walking around with her child(ren), would you automatically assume, "What a weirdo, she must be a terrible mom"?
Well, someone asked for pictures, so here they are.
My hair postbleaching (prior to this is was a medium auburn color). Blonde hair makes me look whiter than white.
Should you be judged? No,[url=http://www.sport.fr/economie/airmax.html]air max hommes[/url], of course not. It's just a little fun.
Will you be judged? Oh absolutely. Don't doubt it for a second.
Will you and/or your kid have to endure some sort of negative experience tied to someone judging you? Most likely.
So then the question is, is your last hurrah worth it to you? Will you be able to let the BS slide off your back with a smile? Or are you going to get all pouty when someone reacts badly? If the former, go ahead and do it. If the latter, then please don't. Spare your family the drama.
So then the question is, is your last hurrah worth it to you?
I had to think about this for a while, and figure out if there's a more complex reason behind this than simply, "I want to." And there is. The first time I dyed my hair an unnatural color, I was nineteen years old. In the three months prior to dying my hair, I had injured my knee so severely that I had to quit my job, ended up in the emergency room a month later for appendicitis and had surgery for that, and then a month after that I had major surgery on my knee to replace the ligament that I destroyed. At the same time I was frantically fighting off my depressive tendencies and trying to prepare myself for my first semester of college (which I had to attend in a leg brace that went from my ankle to my hip).
Back then, I believe I dyed my hair as a way to "control" at least one aspect of my suddenly out of control life. And I believe that's the inspiration behind this "last hurrah!" too. My daughter was unplanned, and I love her, but I have had a hard time accepting everything that I've had to change and/or give up as a result of becoming a mother. For example, when applying to University I had to ditch the schools I had originiallyso carefully selected and planned to apply to, and pick from only a handful that offer family housing. Things have been changing like mad since I found out I was pregnant in 2011, and I haven't had control over much of those changes. I think that my sudden intense desire to dye my hair crazy pink is a way for me to officially close the premotherhood chapter of my life, and say goodbye to the plans I had to let go of after I had my daughter.
And since I believe that this sort of behavior is psychologically healthy, I'm going to answer yes, it really is that important to me.
I would assume someone with bright pink hair needs attention.
Do you assume the same about people who drive fancy cars, or own Coach bags, or who wear any sort of clothing that isn't drab and colorless? Everyone practices some sort of behavior that is socalled "attention seeking". That doesn't mean that theyneed attention. Considering I have pretty bad social anxiety, I actually hate being the center of attention. It is possible, however, that having crazy hair might actually make me come out of my shell a little bit and actuallytalk to people. If you have any concerns about your own health or the health of your child, you should always consult with a physician or other healthcare professional. Please review the Privacy Policy and Terms of Use before using this site. Your use of the site indicates your agreement to be bound by the Terms of Use.